Why is confidence attractive

Having self-esteem and confidence protects you from critics. This is not constructive criticism I'm talking about, rather negative individuals who appear jealous and try to bring you down. These people resort to insults because they believe that they are the quickest means to bring someone down. But what does that really mean?

It means these people lack confidence in their own lives and are trying to bring you down to their level. But you know better because, at the end of the day, it's not what others think about you, it's what you think about yourself.

Confidence creates an aura that draws people in. Because many people lack high self-esteems, they are intrigued by people who have high levels of confidence.

They want to learn how these people live their lives with hopes of emulating their energy. Finding a way to be confident is a beyond desirable lifestyle and one everyone should strive for. Although, it can sometimes be difficult to achieve, it is definitely worth it in the long run.

By Ashley Fern. While these people are fine and complacent, they aren't radiating any extra confidence. It shows how you feel about yourself It asserts power and knowledge His chin is up. He looks his lunch companion in the eye and shakes his hand. He is working that suit and you do not know what he is selling, but you are ready to buy. Look at her. She knows she is a catch. When you look her in the eye, she does not look away. She is gracious, but not fawning. She could take you or leave you.

She will not slow down unless she has a good reason. Something about her complete lack of desperation makes her seem completely irresistible. We are drawn to people who believe in themselves. Arrogance is a turn off, but confidence is not synonymous with thinking too much of oneself.

Confident people are simply happy with where they are in life and believe they are capable of reaching their goals. If you are interested in a relationship, but you always seem to be on the outside looking in, I would encourage you to examine your confidence. When you go out in public, do you look down?

Invested in a big project at work that's demanding your attention? Find something interesting to say when someone starts a conversation. Also in the spirit of being a good conversationalist, try to show genuine interest in the people around you. Here are good questions to get people talking about themselves: What are you most excited about? What are you struggling with at the moment? What's next? You should also be prepared to answer these queries yourself -- doing so will help you be ready to tell a good story.

Do not slouch -- it communicates you lack faith in yourself. If this is a weak area for you, try posting a note on the edge of your computer display with a reminder such as an up-arrow in thick red marker. To correct yourself, roll your shoulders back and imagine pulling a string from the top of your head, elongating your spine and raising your chin so it's in a neutral, forward-facing position.

Less confident people often can't be present and their best selves if they're constantly asking themselves questions such as: Did I come across as confident? Did they think that I was smart? Did they think that I was successful? Did they think what I said was stupid? In truth, you can never really know what someone else thinks of you.

So, instead of worrying about it, concentrate on what you want to communicate, such as asking good questions, not engaging in time-wasting small talk, and looking people in the eyes. Pay attention to what you're saying to yourself within your mind.